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Sometimes It Hurts

The Gift of Living in Tension with Heartache There is great pain in trying to be authentic, living in the tension of family, work, faith, hobbies, and other responsibilities in a way that reflects who we want to be. The pain of not being with the people we most love is inevitable. From time to time, we all need some suggestions for how to live out our passions in this world, but too often we try to circumvent the pain of living in a broken world with strategies for success. But unless we have our hearts, all our strategies will

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What Your Adolescent Really Needs

Written by Melanie Rogers, MMFT, LPC-MHSP When I tell people I work with teenagers, I usually get some version of this response: "Wow, that’s a tough age. You must be really patient, brave, or crazy." I may be a little bit of all three. The changes that occur in the teenage years make working with (and parenting) teenagers both scary and (potentially) really fun. Whether the “issue” that brings an adolescent into therapy is anxiety, self- harm, sexual acting out, depression, or relational struggles, a parent’s biggest question is some version of: "How do I make my child's pain and suffering

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4 Do’s to Do Dating Right — Clearing Up the Confusion About Dating

How does dating work? How do people go from being strangers to committing their lives to each other?  Forty years ago, there was more structure to dating: a couple got to know each other, then decided to date each other exclusively, there may have been a promise ring, then an engagement ring, and then marriage. During this time period, there were markers for how a relationship was supposed to develop. Times have certainly changed. We now live in an age when there are no set rules and guidelines for dating. It is now more important than ever when dating to know

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Listening to the Voice of Your Heart

When the phone rang, I knew what the call would be about. It was like that part in an adventure movie where the hero is about to reach the top of the mountain – you know what’s going to happen next. The only thing missing from the moment was swelling orchestral strings to enhance the drama. I answered the phone with satisfaction, and savored the description of the formal job offer, adorned in sparkly detail of important title, more money and the power to shape the strategy of a company. I unhesitatingly accepted the offer that we had spent the

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Freeing the Tamed Heart

In the past century, the tactics involved in taming an elephant for circus performing aren't nearly as violent or barbaric as they once were, but it still remains heartbreaking to witness. We all know this magnificent two-ton animal could crush its handler instantly, and yet the elephant obeys his every command. Sometimes doing tricks that are dangerous to its own health. How can this be? How can such a strong and relatively smart animal withstand this kind of captivity? The stinging reminder never disappears—this incredible animal was taken from its natural habitat, usually at a young age, was "broken in" over a

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Come out, come out, wherever you are.

Woodcarvers have a tough job. They are given the exact same medium every single time: a block of wood. Then they’re tasked with making something unique, something beautiful, something worth selling. And it takes forever. For. Ev. Er. Much like the woodcarver shapes the block of wood by removing unnecessary layers to reveal the subject, our hearts require the same attention and intention. We must remove the unnecessary layers of protection of our hearts so that 1.) we can be authentic with ourselves and with others and 2.) we can acknowledge/embrace our individuality. The key to authenticity is discovering our

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