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E is for Empathy

I am more and more convinced that empathy is the key to healthy relationships. Empathy is why individual counseling and marriage therapy can be so effective. Your therapist is trained to listen to the voice of your heart and understand what’s at the root of your anxiety or depression, but also your hopes and dreams. That’s what empathy is. An awareness and joining of your feelings. Too often we simply feel the feelings without seeking a deeper understanding of what they might mean. This is true for both our interpersonal relationships and our relationships with ourselves. My favorite examination of empathy

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3 Elements of a Healthy Apology

When I was in the 10th grade, I used to intentionally antagonize my French teacher. I would hide her chalk and her coffee mug.  I’d ask to go to the bathroom in Spanish. I’d “forget” that my assigned seat was in the front row right next to her desk. I was a real prince. We had a little ritual. She’d get fed up and extend some kind of empty threat. I’d say, “I’m sorry.” Then she’d say, “I don’t want you to say you’re sorry. I want you to apologize.” As a sophomore in high school, I definitely didn’t understand

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Motherhood Has Changed Me

People ask me all the time how motherhood has changed me. Well let’s put it this way. Before I met you two, the word responsibility meant getting to work on time. And eating vegetables. Now it means guiding, feeding, teaching, protecting two little babies, completely dependent on us for everything. And while it takes every morsel of my effort and energy to do it all day everyday, there’s nothing else in the world that makes me happier. The truth is, I want to do it for the rest of your lives. Read the full letter written by Jenna Wolfe on time.com.

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Response-Ability

Last month we considered Three Re’s of Successful Couplehood. Success was tied to both responsibility and resistance, two concepts relevant to anyone committed to personal growth and maturity, whether you’re part of a couple or not. Imagine a relationship that is suffering because your friend drinks too much. Or you weren’t included in the latest girls’ night. Or no matter how hard you’ve tried, your father still won’t be the bigger man. Indeed, none of these scenarios may be your fault, but you still have responsibility. Response-ability. We all have that—the ability to respond with our best selves. Too often,

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3 Re’s of Successful Couplehood

All couples have ups and downs. Conflict is inevitable and in fact, roughly ⅔ of relationship conflict is considered unsolvable. It makes sense then that couples need to periodically renew their relationships. Couplehood only works when each partner is committed to personal health. But what does that mean? It means examining questions about Responsibility, Resistance and Resources. 1. Responsibility Imagine—just for a minute—that all the stress in your relationship is your fault. What 2-3 things are you aware of that you could take responsibility for? Are there changes you can make right now that would change the trajectory of the

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