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Freeing the Tamed Heart

In the past century, the tactics involved in taming an elephant for circus performing aren't nearly as violent or barbaric as they once were, but it still remains heartbreaking to witness. We all know this magnificent two-ton animal could crush its handler instantly, and yet the elephant obeys his every command. Sometimes doing tricks that are dangerous to its own health. How can this be? How can such a strong and relatively smart animal withstand this kind of captivity? The stinging reminder never disappears—this incredible animal was taken from its natural habitat, usually at a young age, was "broken in" over a

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Re-pair: The Key to Healthy Relationships

Imagine you’re skiing. Your skis are in parallel, until they aren’t. They start to drift a little, either from snow conditions or fatigue or lack of experience. You need to make tiny corrections to help you stay upright. Sometimes you hit a major bump and one ski veers radically from your chosen direction. In that case, you’ll need to make a more substantial, maybe even traumatic, correction. In either case, the key is to get your skis back in parallel: to re-pair your skis. This same principle of repair is key in relationships. In fact, I’d say it’s the key.

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