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Finding Guidance in Unlikely Places

Throughout my life, I have both guided and been guided by others. No matter how old I get, this doesn’t seem to change. I do sense that I’m on the guiding end more these days than I was when I was younger, but the more I embrace the mystery and beauty and struggles of my life, the more I recognize the abundance of guides all around me.   My guides find me in unexpected places; like the way a leaf rests on my truck windshield after a rain, or the way a child runs to her dad as I walk

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Two Ways To Engage Your Life in 2017

Each of us is on a journey; there are no exceptions. We may be paying strict attention to where we have been and where we believe we are going, or we may be taking it as it comes. In either case, we are present to our journey or we are not. There are, I sense, two ways to look at how we are engaged in our own lives: The method way or the path way.    In my work and conversations, I hear varying forms of this question all the time, “Can you just tell me how to get there?!”

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E is for Empathy

I am more and more convinced that empathy is the key to healthy relationships. Empathy is why individual counseling and marriage therapy can be so effective. Your therapist is trained to listen to the voice of your heart and understand what’s at the root of your anxiety or depression, but also your hopes and dreams. That’s what empathy is. An awareness and joining of your feelings. Too often we simply feel the feelings without seeking a deeper understanding of what they might mean. This is true for both our interpersonal relationships and our relationships with ourselves. My favorite examination of empathy

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3 Elements of a Healthy Apology

When I was in the 10th grade, I used to intentionally antagonize my French teacher. I would hide her chalk and her coffee mug.  I’d ask to go to the bathroom in Spanish. I’d “forget” that my assigned seat was in the front row right next to her desk. I was a real prince. We had a little ritual. She’d get fed up and extend some kind of empty threat. I’d say, “I’m sorry.” Then she’d say, “I don’t want you to say you’re sorry. I want you to apologize.” As a sophomore in high school, I definitely didn’t understand

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Seeking the Spiritual

People have been seeking out spiritual guides for nearly as long as the Christian faith has existed. In the early 3rd century, seekers would travel to the desert to find mystics that lived there and ask for spiritual guidance. These mystics, or Desert Fathers and Mothers, practiced listening for and to God in the silence and solitude of the desert—away from societal pressures where life was harsh and vulnerable, yet simple and pious. Seekers would make the pilgrimage to a mystic community, stand at the outer gate and ask, “Please, a word for my soul.” The seeker, likely not all that different from us, was looking for answers to their

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