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Do You Deny Yourself Joy?

My grandmother’s jewelry hangs in an organizer in my closet. I recently pulled it out from behind coats to find dust inside the pouches that neatly hold the precious metals, stones, and colors. I touched a couple of the pieces she wore often, and that most reminded me of her. My chest ached and my eyes watered at the memory, wishing it was now, and feeling sad that it could no longer be. Gladness and sadness both were present in that moment. And I’m finding that both of these feelings must be present in order to experience true joy. Unfortunately,

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What Is Your Body Telling You?

The way we move tells a story. A ballet dancer connects dance moves with music to portray beginning, middle, and end through an art form that is expressed by the human body. A smart racer, whether on a bike, in the water, or on foot is mapping out his or her race from start to finish, aware of the twists and turns that come with the terrain. Yoga begins in a pose that is called child’s pose or seed pose. It is a guided process that moves the body through the natural progression of life, helping us embrace it, and

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What Makes a Good Listener

There are three basic components of every good listener: 1. Good listeners know, and act on, their limitations.   Knowing our limitations is the work of learning our own stories and the makeup of who we are. When we know ourselves, we can plan around and sometimes prevent situations from occurring that will hurt, trigger, or harm someone we care about. 2. Good listeners ask plenty of questions. The basis for every relationship is built on the foundation of curiosity. If we are not curious people, we will not get to know them. Asking questions is a simple way to

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What’s Really Happening When You Suffer

Written by Melanie Rogers, MMFT, LPC-MHSP Photo by Lisa Nottingham No one escapes life without suffering. Whether you would describe your suffering as abandonment, rejection, grief, betrayal, or abuse, all suffering can leave us with deep wounds and name us as Forgotten, Unlovable, Damaged, and Disposable. However, suffering also seems to be a necessary passage through which a great many beautiful, rich, and captivating souls have passed. Though it can be a terrifying choice to surrender our control and be willing to feel the pain of life, there seems to be an element of mysterious mercy at play when we entrust

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Two Ways To Engage Your Life in 2017

Each of us is on a journey; there are no exceptions. We may be paying strict attention to where we have been and where we believe we are going, or we may be taking it as it comes. In either case, we are present to our journey or we are not. There are, I sense, two ways to look at how we are engaged in our own lives: The method way or the path way.    In my work and conversations, I hear varying forms of this question all the time, “Can you just tell me how to get there?!”

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Finding An Anthem For Affliction

The first time I heard John Mark McMillan’s (now widely-known) song "How He Loves Us,” I was at the funeral of a high school friend who passed away in a car accident. I distinctly remember how the words confounded my mind but resonated somewhere within my heart all at once. Part of the chorus goes like this: He is jealous for me Love’s like a hurricane, I am a tree Bending beneath the weight of his wind and mercy After singing it through both seasons of heartache and celebration over the past decade, one line continues to stop me in my

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Creating A Space For Your Dreams

by Kate Hughes It was the last Saturday in May — the sun was setting on Regent Drive , and people were beginning to trickle into our home. Kelsey and I had spent the afternoon trying to wrap lights around the trunk of the the oak in our backyard “like Pinterest.” It didn’t turn out the same as the picture (because it never does), but it was perfect. I had been envisioning this night, where I would host the people that I love most in the world to celebrate both the ending of this season and beginning of a new

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Love is a Choice: The Fear of Losing the Other

I'm afraid I'll lose him or her  can be one of the most powerful motivators in a relationship. There are many stories that shape the foundation of this fear, but regardless of it's origin, the way we behave out of this fear will either result in bondage or freedom. If we're honest, we all have fears about doing or not doing something that will bring an end to an important relationship. This fear may not be consciously present for both partners, but it's in there. There are two ways we typically react to this fear. The first, which is a

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What are You Making Room For?

An Invitation to a Contemplative Approach to Your Internal Spaces by Kate Hughes Walls, doors, and windows are functional boundaries that are part of most rooms. These three structures help create starts and stops, beginnings and endings, comings and goings in the spaces we dwell. Psychologically, emotionally, and spiritually, we are all similar. Internally, our walls, windows, and doors are the very things that allow us to listen, know, and share our selves by both granting access to the outside world and a way to close ourselves in for rest. When we do not take ownership of our space by

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Celebrations

We have all seen the movie where the protagonist is a totally self-absorbed character—praised and rewarded by the adoring public for some remarkable talent or gift that has lost its meaning to him (think Tony Stark from Ironman). He or she has cabinets and closets full of awards, and the next one is simply tossed aside like an old candy wrapper. On the outside they have it all, but on the inside they’re thinking, “Is that all there is? I’ve gotten all the praise, wealth, and power that I have always sought and I still feel empty.” Similarly, some of

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