Posts by Dane Anthony

Helping you navigate through life


A To-Not-Do List

I was taken recently by the question of what my “To-Do” lists really do for me? I’ve made them and crossed things off for years. There are seasons in which these seemingly helpful lists prove a profitable exercise; a place to deposit the endless undone things I must attend to. Certainly, they can be helpful in acknowledging things that are necessary and need my attention. In other seasons, these lists, or at least the propensity to create them, feel more like a perpetual exercise in all the things that are undone. It is as if they are frantically waving their

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Letting Go and Holding On

I work with a lot of people around the dynamics of transition, whether it be vocational, relational, or spiritual. My deep sense is we are constantly in some state of transition, even on a micro-level, like the transition from breath to breath. So when I consider transition, I am always looking for the ways in which I am attached to something or someone, or even attached to an idea. These are hard to let go of when we know them well or when they provide a sense of security. I watched the film Toy Story 3 again recently. The premise of

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Learning to Fail

There is no doubt that our culture is bent on the pursuit of success; we see it everywhere. In turn, the idea of failure is one that we expend a lot of focus and energy avoiding and helping others avoid, especially our children.     In my First-Year Seminar course for new college freshman, we spend an entire class exploring “Failure” in order to expand our understanding about what it really is, and why we’re really afraid of it — why have we been taught to avoid something that’s likely inevitable, even helpful? A number of the sources we examine

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What You Need To Cut Loose

I recently found myself in a discussion about the desire to move or explore a new place, recognizing the plethora of all the things that weigh us down, even when those things seem to also bring a sense of safety. In that conversation, the image of an old-fashioned hot air balloon came to me.   The kind we see in The Wizard of Oz that brings Dorothy to the Emerald City; a woven basket tethered tenuously to a fragile orb, laden with bags of sand around its edges for ballast to control the rise and fall of this seemingly lighter

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Coming Awake to Your Life

Every day we navigate the zigs and zags of our lives. We take familiar routes to work or school, or on our daily runs.  The things we see every day can become so common in our vision that it is not unusual for them to essentially disappear from view. There is an art to paying attention; it is work, no question about it. We are being convinced in our culture that instead of tuning into our surroundings, we must pursue the dazzle, the epic, the sensational.  The common, then, must find a place off to the side just outside our

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Finding Guidance in Unlikely Places

Throughout my life, I have both guided and been guided by others. No matter how old I get, this doesn’t seem to change. I do sense that I’m on the guiding end more these days than I was when I was younger, but the more I embrace the mystery and beauty and struggles of my life, the more I recognize the abundance of guides all around me.   My guides find me in unexpected places; like the way a leaf rests on my truck windshield after a rain, or the way a child runs to her dad as I walk

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Two Ways To Engage Your Life in 2017

Each of us is on a journey; there are no exceptions. We may be paying strict attention to where we have been and where we believe we are going, or we may be taking it as it comes. In either case, we are present to our journey or we are not. There are, I sense, two ways to look at how we are engaged in our own lives: The method way or the path way.    In my work and conversations, I hear varying forms of this question all the time, “Can you just tell me how to get there?!”

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Seeking the Spiritual

People have been seeking out spiritual guides for nearly as long as the Christian faith has existed. In the early 3rd century, seekers would travel to the desert to find mystics that lived there and ask for spiritual guidance. These mystics, or Desert Fathers and Mothers, practiced listening for and to God in the silence and solitude of the desert—away from societal pressures where life was harsh and vulnerable, yet simple and pious. Seekers would make the pilgrimage to a mystic community, stand at the outer gate and ask, “Please, a word for my soul.” The seeker, likely not all that different from us, was looking for answers to their

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