Category Archives: Addiction

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As I sit here in Starbucks sipping on a Grande coffee, I remember back to the months and days that led up to my addiction being exposed.  There were many nights I stared at my computer screen hoping that the next image would bring me relief. No matter how many images I viewed, though, none brought me that relief I was looking for. Image after image just seemed to bring more despair and hopelessness until, finally, I became numb to it all. I was numb to the pain, numb to my friends, numb to the look in my wife, Jen’s,

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Leaning Into Your Imperfections

“I don’t have a full length mirror for a reason.” These were some of the first words spoken to me by a dear client of mine as she described the rule she created to keep herself safe from her eating disorder. “If I only look at my face in the mirror, I won’t get sad and angry at my eating disorder because I won’t be able to judge my body.” By choosing to do this, she shuts herself off from the rest of her being and she feels better — but only for a moment.   Unfortunately, she’s not alone.

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Dealing with Holiday Stress

My daughters were born on Halloween and New Year’s Day. That means that nearly all of our family “holidays” are crammed into about a 45 day window. I’d like to think that, somehow, my holidays are more stressful than yours. But that’s not really true. The Holidays (with a capital T and a capital H) are universally stressful. They’re the perfect storm of things designed to feed anxiety, depression, and addiction. The Holidays are loaded with family expectations, energy drains, financial strains, and the also the highest hopes. We desperately want these few months to be the highlight of the

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Alcohol Abuse and the Elderly

The Problem Continues to Worsen It will come as no surprise that a considerable number of the older people in our nation drink. A drink after work or a couple of glasses of wine with dinner is a habit that can be picked up over a lifetime. However, once the kids leave home and don’t come by so much or the retirement party is only a distant memory, those drinking habits that were relatively safe and stable in younger years can turn into a true drinking problem. As isolation and loneliness set in, more and more seniors are turning to

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Dealing with Addiction

Whether we like it or not, whether we want to admit it or not; if we are alive, we are dealing with addiction. It touches all of our lives. Everybody falls into at least one of three categories (usually two). We are either 1) in active addition, 2) recovering from addiction, or 3) love somebody who is. In active addiction, a person attaches to a substance, behavior, or process and progressively becomes a slave to it. The addiction persists, despite its negative consequences, and leads to a place where we can't control ourselves—a place of powerlessness. Even if an addict wants to quit, most people find

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