Category Archives: Boundaries

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Boundaries Start with Me

Boundaries in relationships are the markers that help differentiate you from someone else, or communicate where you “begin” and “end.” Using an analogy of land ownership with fences and gates, boundaries are the fences around your land. Gates are the passageways that allow others onto your land. You control the gates on your land. If anyone comes onto your land in any fashion except through the gates, without your permission, they are trespassing. Boundaries in relationships are the markers that help communicate where you “begin” and “end.”     You are responsible for your own fences that mark your land, and you are

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The Practice of Saying No

My good friend refers to me as a “foodie” but not in the traditional sense that I really love good, trendy restaurants, trying experimental flavors and unusual menu items. Nope. We both know it’s code for “picky eater that will eat at one of six places in town if you’d like share a meal with her.” I feel so known when she playfully calls me a “foodie” because I’ve been honest with her about my story with food, eating out, food sensitivities, and plain old preferences. It has taken me a long time to come to terms with the fact

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What is Your Next “Yes”?

As the new year unfolds, I find myself asking what is my next “yes”? I first heard it put this way years ago listening to a then 23-year-old woman talk about her 14 children. With a smile and glimmer in her eye, she shared that her family had grown in a series of yeses. It started with a trip to Uganda and then the decision to bypass a promising life in the States by moving there permanently. Katie then shared the stories of her first five adoptions, small moments when she felt God whisper “Will you?”, and she managed a

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Are You Taking On Too Many Roles?

Every year when August hits, and the air (supposedly) cools off, my Saturday mornings typically begin with coffee in hand and ESPN Gameday on the TV — I am getting geared up to watch my Auburn Tigers play later on. In the past few years, I’ve noticed a segment on ESPN Gameday called “You Had One Job.” While this is mostly a way for the commentators to shame young 18-22 year old athletes, I’ve found myself joining in on the laughter and accusations of, “Come on! You blew it! You really did only have one job!” However, last week it

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What are You Making Room For?

An Invitation to a Contemplative Approach to Your Internal Spaces by Kate Hughes Walls, doors, and windows are functional boundaries that are part of most rooms. These three structures help create starts and stops, beginnings and endings, comings and goings in the spaces we dwell. Psychologically, emotionally, and spiritually, we are all similar. Internally, our walls, windows, and doors are the very things that allow us to listen, know, and share our selves by both granting access to the outside world and a way to close ourselves in for rest. When we do not take ownership of our space by

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